Mortality – Tempus Fugit, Memento Mori

No, this is not a message from your insurance agent.  It is a message received this weekend by your news anchor when least expected.  It is a message to be shared. You walk up to someone, shake their hand or wave as you hustle by.  You see them often and they are a fixture.  It […]

No, this is not a message from your insurance agent.  It is a message received this weekend by your news anchor when least expected.  It is a message to be shared.

  • You walk up to someone, shake their hand or wave as you hustle by.  You see them often and they are a fixture.  It could be a friend, a coworker, a buddy, a son, a grandchild, or any person we come into contact with.  We race on by and sometimes pass on the greeting.  We race about for there is always tomorrow.

This weekend, for this writer, there was to be no tomorrow for a close friend.  He was an elderly pastor living in a small town with a big heart.  He was a quiet man.  His voice was raspy like George “Gabby” Hayes.  He even resembled Gabby, “a little bit.”

I often reminded him of Gabby and the similarity.  In fact, on Friday night last, I said “George Hayes,” not Gabby Hayes, and he told me that he never new Gabby’s real name was George.  For you young “whippersnappers,” Gabby starred with a very young John Wayne back in the ’30’s and 40’s. He also served as the sidekick of Hopalong Cassidy, Roy Rogers, and Gene Autry at Republic and Paramount Pictures.  They were my heroes at the nine-cent Saturday double-feature matinee.

I did not know that our bit of evening bantering was to be our final goodbye.  We had fun and laughed at ourselves, as friends do.

Reverend A. G. Parker also had a signature statement that he was well known by.  After each prayer that opened or closed a meeting, he would say with a drawl, “I love you all – just a little.”  He said it thousands of times at Veterans of Foreign Wars posts throughout the states of North and South Carolina, at official events and meetings, and at monthly veterans memorial services at the National Cemetery in Salisbury, North Carolina.

No one expected him to be called home while he was with us.  But, as we all arose for a day of meetings, he just couldn’t get going and died of heart failure.  We gathered for our formal session meeting and saw an empty chair.

                     Tempus fugit, Memento Mori

We all need to remind ourselves that none of us, nor anyone in our realm of family and friends, know when Our Lord will call us home.

So, here is my challenge to you, Brother Knights. Take time, slow down, and maybe even smell the sweet morning air. Compliment a co-worker, child, or even “Fido.” Ask questions, share, care, reward, give, help, hold a hand, and say a kind word.

Don’t worry about your mortality. Consider life without someone you know and have worked or played with for years. Go give them a hug. Treat each encounter as a final one. Time flies, remember death.


St. Patrick’s Day Event Planned – March 17th

Are you ready to celebrate a wee bit?  Do you have a little blarney in you?  Are you considering dyeing your pond green like in Chicago?  Why not join with the Knights of Columbus as we let our hair down a little on St. Patty’s Day?  As Peter might say, “It’s time for a little […]

Are you ready to celebrate a wee bit?  Do you have a little blarney in you?  Are you considering dyeing your pond green like in Chicago?  Why not join with the Knights of Columbus as we let our hair down a little on St. Patty’s Day? 


As Peter might say, “It’s time for a little craic.  Grab your woman, turn off the telly, and grab a few bob.  Tis’ time to get a wee bit polluted.  D’yaknowhwatimeanlike? Be a plastic paddy for a day!  ‘Twil be grand.”


The Council is teaming up with the Catholic Daughters of America to host a St. Patrick’s Day Party on Saturday, March 17 from 6:30-9:30 in the St. Thomas More Church Friends and Family Hall.

We will be serving corned beef, cabbage, potatoes, soda bread, cake, wine, beer, coffee and non-alcoholic beverages.  For entertainment, we have a bagpipe player, Irish music, and step dancers.

Tickets are just $25 for adults and $20 for children.  This includes both your meal and entertainment.

If you would like to purchase tickets, they are available after most masses, at the upcoming Pancake Breakfast, at the upcoming Lenten Fish Dinners or by simply contacting ticket sales.

Our understanding is that there are no other Churches in our area having a St. Patrick’s Day event, so please spread the word in Chapel Hill and Durham.  Invite your friends.  Share with them the family life and activities  of Catholics in Chapel Hill.

Please help us make this a big success and the beginning of a new annual social event for the Church.

Squires’ Impact is Felt

“From a mustard seed…”  Our Squires were years in formation.  A lot of work went into it and they are now in their second year.  Do you know all of their stories of success and contribution to the St. Thomas More Church community?  Did you know that their efforts continue to generate good outside of […]

“From a mustard seed…”  Our Squires were years in formation.  A lot of work went into it and they are now in their second year.  Do you know all of their stories of success and contribution to the St. Thomas More Church community?  Did you know that their efforts continue to generate good outside of our parish community?

Their efforts to raise money last year for the National D-Day Memorial in Bedford, VA, is just one story, but it is a gangbuster.  One squire, Garcian D’Cruz  was inspired by what he saw and heard that he came home and led the Squires through a project that brought recognition not only to them, but also greatly benefited the memorial and Chapel Hill High School.

Today, Garcian’s Honors English teacher, Tom Stanfa, was selected as the Feb 2, 2012, Hometown Hero and winner of the Village Pride award.  Mr. Stanfa was also just selected Veterans of Foreign Wars, North Carolina Department, Teacher of the Year (grades 9-12).  All this was the result of a squire trying to make a difference in our community.  A squire on a quest, seeking Knighting.  Read story

We never know where the paths we chose will lead us, but the path we took to support a Chapel Hill Squires Circle was one of our best decisions.  Thank you Jim Orbich, Ron Patterson, Drew Melvin, Jerry Pilarski, Dario Sena, Gil Montoya, John Felten, and others for nurturing these young men and future Knights of Columbus.

Free Throw Competition Set for Feb 11th

David Peters, council Free Throw Competition Chairman announced today that he has scheduled the Knights of Columbus Free Throw Contest at St. Thomas More Church for Saturday, February 11th at 9:00 a.m. It will be held in the School Gym. This is open to not only St. Thomas More School students, but all students within […]

David Peters, council Free Throw Competition Chairman announced today that he has scheduled the Knights of Columbus Free Throw Contest at St. Thomas More Church for Saturday, February 11th at 9:00 a.m. It will be held in the School Gym.


This is open to not only St. Thomas More School students, but all students within the area.  This program was started by the Knights of Columbus in 1972 and has served our youth for forty years.  Many parents were themselves in the contest early in their life.  The contest is open to all boys and girls ages 10 to 14.


To view a short video of Bishop Barres discussing the virtues of both the Free Throw Championship and the Soccer Challenge, click here.


For member knights, we ask that you share this information with your friends and family.  The more students that participate makes for a more exciting event for all.  Winners in each age group go on to district and state competition.  


Volunteers are needed to help with score-keeping and running the event in general.  David states that he  could use up to 10 helpers.  If people could please contact David for more details or to volunteer, email David.  


Drew Melvin – Irene Brriggaman Lifetime Achievement Award

Where there is work to be done, Drew is first to help! A message to all parishioners from Fr. Scott: Please join me in congratulating long time parishioner Drew Melvin who recently was selected to receive the Irene Briggaman Lifetime Achievement Award. This special award for service, named in honor of its first recipient, is presented to individuals who have demonstrated […]

Where there is work to be done, Drew is first to help!
A message to all parishioners from Fr. Scott:

Please join me in congratulating long time parishioner Drew Melvin who recently was selected to receive the Irene Briggaman Lifetime Achievement Award. This special award for service, named in honor of its first recipient, is presented to individuals who have demonstrated a lifetime of exceptional public service and volunteerism in the greater Chapel Hill-Carrboro community in multiple capacities with different organizations. This special honor is awarded when a nominee’s consistent volunteerism and service have made a profound impact on our community over the long term. Drew is very deserving of this award for his life time of selfless service to our local community. St. Thomas More has greatly benefited from Drew’s service and example and it brings great joy to us that he was chosen for this award. Drew will receive the award on December 13th during a 6:30 PM ceremony at University Mall.

Be sure to join him at University Mall (at the stage near Dilliard’s) on Tuesday, December 13th for the award ceremony.  It starts at 6:30 p.m.  There are other awards and the ceremony will last until about 8 p.m.  Come early, stay late. 

Council Gathers for Christmas Dinner – Dec 3rd

Our council along with the Catholic Daughters of America (CDA) is hosting a family Thanksgiving/Christmas party on Saturday, December 3 at 6 PM.  It will be in the old gym in the lower school.   Turkey, ham, salmon and non-alcoholic beverage will be provided.  People are welcome to bring beer or wine if they like. […]

Our council along with the Catholic Daughters of America (CDA) is hosting a family Thanksgiving/Christmas party on Saturday, December 3 at 6 PM.  It will be in the old gym in the lower school.  


Turkey, ham, salmon and non-alcoholic beverage will be provided.  People are welcome to bring beer or wine if they like.  We are asking each family to bring a salad, side or dessert.  There will be no other charge.  

Squires Raise Money for National D-Day Memorial in Bedford, VA

Dario Sena with squires Nick Clemmons and Garcian D’Cruz are working on a Squires project to raise funds for the National D-Day Memorial located 120 miles north of Chapel Hill. The squires are going to raise money by selling plants after each mass the weekend of 14-15 May.  They will also work with the Knights […]

Dario Sena with squires

Nick Clemmons and Garcian D’Cruz are working on a Squires project to raise funds for the National D-Day Memorial located 120 miles north of Chapel Hill.

The squires are going to raise money by selling plants after each mass the weekend of 14-15 May.  They will also work with the Knights to collect donations after the  masses, too.

Did you know that St. Thomas More Church members generously donated about $4,900 on Veterans Day last year for active duty amputees who were hospitalized over the Christmas holiday period?  The squires are hoping that this project will draw similar support.

The plan is to travel to the memorial and participate as invited guests on the June 6th commemoration ceremonies.  Their presentation will be during the ceremony.

When Squire Garcian was asked, “Why?”, he told a story of a recent visit and seeing that it needed help financially.  D-Day also just happens to be remembered on its anniversary, June 6th, which is also his birthday.  Garcian said, “They are having a tough time raising funds.  The soldiers died for us on that day.  Without that day (Operation Overlord and invasion of Europe on June 6, 1944), we would be speaking a different language today.”

Garcian may be right.  Many of today’s citizens cannot comprehend what went on during their grandfather’s or even great-grandfather’s time.  Our country mobilized for war and many never returned home. That is why this memorial is in Bedford, Virginia.  Bedford lost two thirds of the men it sent to war.  The museum is now struggling to survive.  It’s location near Lynchburg, VA, puts it off the main tourist paths.  If you have not visited it, it is a good day trip for the family.  Maybe your and your children will be moved as much as Gracian.  Learn more about the National D-Day Memorial

Our squires are an exciting and energetic group.  They have become a vital part of our local council by helping  the Knights at special events and with the Pancake Breakfast.  They are trained to cook and serve food, but, more importantly, they are learning responsibility and gain a spirit of giving back to the community.  And, as seen by this current project, their reach is not limited to Chapel Hill.

The squires are also looking to connect with any parishioner who has served during World War II.  Efforts are now underway to reach out to the local Veterans of Foreign Wars and American Legion members who served during World War II.  There are quite a  few of them right here in Chapel Hill.  Within the Knights we are honored to have Jerry Pilarski and Gene Drogos, among others.

Want to make a donation to this project?  Contact the Squires.

The Squires are a religious youth group of catholic young men and can be compared to the Boy Scouts.  They are self-governing circle and are guided by counselors from the local Knights of Columbus Council, 10910.

St. Thomas More School Knights Bring Home Trophy

Our school team headed to Charlotte to compete in the Shamrock Tournament.  Our school team was one of forty other boys and girls middle school basketball teams from North and South Carolina and Georgia.  They took 3rd Place. The boys team won four games out of five.  They defeated St. Mary Magdalene of Apex to […]

Our school team headed to Charlotte to compete in the Shamrock Tournament.  Our school team was one of forty other boys and girls middle school basketball teams from North and South Carolina and Georgia.  They took 3rd Place.

The boys team won four games out of five.  They defeated St. Mary Magdalene of Apex to take the third-place spot.  Read the full story

We are very proud of our church school team.  Join us in congratulating them.

This Little Light of Mine…

“If a tree falls in the wilderness, will anyone hear it fall?”  You have heard this question many, many times.  You may have even pondered the answer. “But what does that have to do with the Knights?” you ask.  A lot.  It describes a perception of our ministry and others of the church.  We do […]

“If a tree falls in the wilderness, will anyone hear it fall?”  You have heard this question many, many times.  You may have even pondered the answer.

“But what does that have to do with the Knights?” you ask.  A lot.  It describes a perception of our ministry and others of the church.  We do a lot for our parish, our community of Chapel Hill, veterans, handicapped, the poor, IFC Pantry, our members in need, the hospitalized, religious orders, and countless others.  True, we should not put signs on our back to announce our latest act of mercy, but we do need to share our deeds with others.

  • “Let your light shine before men, that they may see your fine works and give glory to your Father who is in the heaven.”  Matthew 5:16

What we do is not for ourselves.  We raise money to give it away.  We don’t use it to party or to serve ourselves.  Our fish fries, annual raffle, pancake breakfasts, and Operation Lamb projects benefit our church, seminarians, and mentally handicapped children.

We do a lot more than raise money.  We give of ourselves.  We give our time, our talents, and our personal wealth.  Knights donate thousands of dollars quietly to support a local crisis.  They give furniture, food, and other things to help a homeless family in our midst.  They help the widow.  They sponsor children in our area and overseas.  They serve on boards, committees, in clubs, and charities to give even more.

We work with our youth–our future–and have just completed the formation of a Columbian Squires Circle in our parish.  Our project went so well and showed what could be done, that another neighboring parish followed our lead.  They, too, started a Circle.

Lighting yet another another candle of hope

We are about 120 strong, but there are hundreds of other men in our parish who are welcome to join us.  What we need to do now is to show our candles of hope for the poor and suffering in our midst.  We need to share our stories with everyone we meet.  Let them know what the Catholic community of men in our town are doing and how they can help us do even more.

So, wear your Knights of Columbus jacket, shirt, cap or badge.  Wear your regalia on all special masses and funerals.  Be proud of your brotherhood and brothers.  Let your light shine bright for you do His works for His children.

Free Throw Competition Winners Announced

Wil Hoyle made 14 of 15 baskets last weekend to finish with the best record overall and won his age group in the St. Thomas More Knights of Columbus Free Throw competition. Hoyle, winning the 11 year old boys’ category, was one of nine victors who qualified for the district competition.  Each competitor attempted 15 […]

Wil Hoyle made 14 of 15 baskets last weekend to finish with the best record overall and won his age group in the St. Thomas More Knights of Columbus Free Throw competition.
Hoyle, winning the 11 year old boys’ category, was one of nine victors who qualified for the district competition.  Each competitor attempted 15 baskets.
Oliver Lynch-Daniels and Johnson Carbuccia each hit 13 baskets to win the 12 and 13 year-old boys’ division, respectively.
Noah Cox shot his age (ten free throws) to win the boys’ 10 bracket, as did Lydia Carbuccia (11) in the Girls’ 11 division.  Christianna Adamson also made 11 to win the Girls’ 13 division.
Jacqueline Kirsch (Girls’ 12), Helen Gaynes (Girls’ 14) and Connor Morphy (Boys’ 14) each made ten free throws to win their age group.
The District Competition is tentative scheduled for St. Thomas More School Gym on Saturday, March 5th.